The desire to keep one’s head low and dodging engagement as a means to avoid looking foolish is completely understandable.
And completely counterproductive to being a media composer.
Electing to pursue a career as a media composer is a big fat, bold, open invitation to encounter endless opportunities to risk looking foolish.
A PARTIAL SCHEDULE OF POTENTIAL EXPOSURE TO EMBARRASSMENT
Media Composers get SO many ripe chances to look foolish. Among those opportunities:
1. Reaching out for work.
2. Posting and/or sending out your music.
3. Creating a demo
4. Taking a meeting
5. Making a deal
6. Spotting the project
7. Turning in cues
8. Reacting to feedback to your music
9. Submitting changes to your music
10. Dealing with conflict with filmmakers
11. Publicizing yourself and your music
Each and every one of those situations are overflowing with unique ways to look like a complete dunce.
SO, HOW DOES ONE AVOID LOOKING FOOLISH?
The short and easy answer: DO NOTHING
-Take no risks
-Avoid uncomfortable and unfamiliar situations.
STOP TRYING TO AVOID LOOKING FOOLISH
Embrace that rejection, criticism, disapproval, and judgement that come with trying.
It is unlikely you knew addition or division or how to read and write prior to going to school. You actually went to school to face “problems” and deal with the realities of not already having all the answers.
As best as you could you tried to prepare, but since you were just learning, you mainly just showed up, plowed ahead, made tons of mistakes, learned and moved on.
While you may or may have not looked foolish in grade school, hopefully at some point you realized this amazing discovery: NO ONE CARES THAT YOU YOU DIDN’T KNOW WHAT YOU WERE DOING IN SECOND GRADE. YOU WERE LEARNING. YOU WERE PRACTICING. YOU WERE GROWING.
You probably looked foolish a lot. And you survived. You grew.
THE JOY OF MAKING MISTAKES
As someone wise once said, “Until you are ready to look foolish, you’ll never have the possibility of being great.”
And until you are willing to go out there and and really pursue the career you claim you want to have, you can not avoid looking foolish. Blunders are baked into the process of participating.
Personally, I learned long ago that you can’t please everyone and started to actually enjoy my belly flops. Every one of them taught me something. Every one represented me putting myself out there. Every one of them proved I could recover from my moments of being dumb.
ONCE I STOPPED TAKING MYSELF SO SERIOUSLY, I FOUND MYSELF FEELING LESS FOOLISH.
Huge lesson: GET OVER YOURSELF.
The world isn’t keeping score of every one of your stumbles.
The Universe isn’t centered around you and your fears, doubts and moments of stupidity.
It is almost ALWAYS your inner voices laughing at you for being “foolish” And those inner voices are not your friend.
I suggest telling those voices, “I don’t have the time, energy or interest in hearing from you that I might look foolish. I PROBABLY WILL… AND SO WHAT?