Someone (I believe Andy Hill) made an excellent point on a separate thread, that different people have different personal constitutions.
What is tolerable to one person’s temperament, is not necessarily acceptable to another’s.
THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG: WE ARE ALL WIRED DIFFERENTLY.
A person with a tighter temperament of what is personally acceptable is going to have a different set of experiences than one who has one that is wider.
I have a friend who is an ex-marine. He is pretty much gung-ho to dive into most situations because most forms of adversity doesn’t bother him much.
Because of this, the options he faces are much greater. He can jump into more situations and potentially seize more opportunities because of this.
MORE OPTIONS: MORE OPPORTUNITIES
Like my marine buddy, I have found a lot of opportunities lurking behind situations that would send others running to the hills. My success rate increases because there are less people vying for dealing with those adversity-heavy situations/potential opportunities.
THE PRICE OF LESS OPTIONS
Conversely, there are times when I have a temperament that is not conducive for mining gold behind challenging doors.
I do not have, for example, the right temperament to deal with a “fixer upper” home. I don’t have the right constitution to deal with the aggravations of dealing with budgets and contractors and inconveniences and endless fighting over the remodels.
Because of this, I am limiting myself to homes that are in move-in condition.
MINING GOLD IN MESSY SITUATIONS
There is a whole industry of people with a different temperament than mine who can tolerate those “fixer upper” conflicts and are therefore better set to discover gems within challenging home repairs and then reap the benefit from the potential opportunities that can arise by dealing with fixing up messed-up properties.
ACCEPT THE WORLD HAS A MYRIAD OF CONDITIONS
There are SO many variable of situations. Just accept that. Don’t shake your fist to the gods wishing it were different.
The massive spectrum of experiences isn’t going to be altered to your liking just because you wish it so (or post about it on FaceBook).
There are going to be nice bosses and dick wads. Easy jobs and nightmarish ones. New homes and junkers. Sprints and long hauls. High paying jobs and ones that pay nothing. There are high risk gambles and ones that are stable and predictable.
And, you know what? It’s a good thing that some situations suit some people and are an utter mismatch for others.
One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.
FIND WHAT WORKS FOR YOU
Point me towards a barking, rude, Hollywood executive and I’m in heaven. The bark doesn’t scare me. And I take delight in navigating through it.
As a reward, I get to experience the potential rewards that might lurk beyond the growling beast.
In a different situation, like that home fixer-upper, for me… NO THANKS!
And for someone else that same home is a gift that plays perfectly into what they enjoy tackling.
PUSHING YOUR OWN LIMITS
Sometimes it is a good thing to push your own boundaries beyond what is a safe and comfortable fit with you initial temperament.
If the amount of opportunities you are presented doesn’t work well enough for you, there is the option of working on expanding your own temperament.
You are not stuck as a victim of your own natural constitution.
There is the option on doing the work to push through your own tendencies.
I have delved into a lot of self-help books and been in a lot of therapy to get beyond some of my own initial temperamental limitations.
Because the more things you can tolerate, the more things you can experience.