EXPECTATIONS

We all make up stories in our minds of how things “should” be.

Some of us are elaborate storytellers in this department filling in imaged outcomes in great detail, complete with fabricated dialogue, settings, timelines and other specifics.

Other outcomes that do not adhere to our fabricated expectations are frequently obscured by our fixation on our own narrow expectations, even though those alternate outcomes may actually be of even greater value and serve us better.

So, from where do those expectations come?

They are often hatched by disconnect from reality, false presumptions, inaccurate conclusions, faulty projections, poor-research, bias, misreading situations and wishful thinking.

As we pile up our lists of expectations we create the perfect vessel to carry our resentments.

The Steamship Resentment Is almost always going to crash and sink. Its navigation system is so narrowly focused that it is blind to most of the other paths available on the horizon.

If one finds oneself disappointed, resentful, victimized on a frequent basis, it might be a good time to check under the hood and see if you are turning expectationd into premeditated resentments.

Some warning phrases of falling into the expectation/resentment trap:

1. He should…

2. I can’t believe she didn’t…

3. After all I’ve done, I deserve…

4. I assumed he was going to…

5. The least she could have done is…

6. Why didn’t he just…

7. Of course she must have meant X when she did Y.

8. I must not have heard back because…

9. How dare him…

10. I would have done it this way..,

11. Once I do X, Y will happen…

12. The “right” thing to do would have been…

13. Obviously, it could only mean…

14. I want it to go my way…

15. I made an effort, so I deserve the outcome I seek.

16. I don’t need to spell out,articulate and negotiate my expectations. If he/she were smarter/kinder/more professional/fairer/more creative/etc. then they would just “know” and meet my expectations.

The life of a media composer can be joyful or miserable based largely on how one manages expectations.

It is your choice.

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